50 Shades of Domestic Violence

With all the talk about 50 Shades of Grey, the experience I had with domestic abuse, and the fact that I speak out about it, I figure I would speak my peice on the subject. No, I have not read the book (I don’t even have the desire to). Yes I did see the movie (aContinue reading “50 Shades of Domestic Violence”

Can we Remove Abuse from the World?

Abuse is in the media a lot. People who haven’t experienced it question it a lot. I’ve already written about it, and I have more to say. I want to help others understand what abuse is, and what abuse isn’t. Abuse sneaks up on a woman The first date isn’t wrought with emotionally or physicallyContinue reading “Can we Remove Abuse from the World?”

Say What You Want to Say

If I were to take my filter off and say what I really wanted to say about Domestic Violence and abuse, it would reach out and touch people I love and care about. It would maybe even come across as harsh and judging and possibly hypocritical, I’m not even perfect, after all I grew upContinue reading “Say What You Want to Say”

So My Dad Helped You?

“Mom, why did you leave my dad, why!” My eight year old demanded of me yet again. It was not uncommon for him to ask me such a question, and I knew whatever I said would go back to his dad. We were driving home from the gym, it was dark and rain sprinkled theContinue reading “So My Dad Helped You?”

Types of Abuse

Abuse comes in many forms. There are different kinds of abusers who abuse in different ways. Physical Abuse Of course, physical abuse is the most well known and talked about. Abuse generally doesn’t start here though, it builds up in small ways until it escalates to physical. Once it gets to this point, there isContinue reading “Types of Abuse”

Love Yourself Because Someone Has To

So you made it. You left. You’ve been through the frightening experience of leaving your abuser and starting your own life. Now what? Here it is, step one to healing from abuse: love yourself. It may sound simple, but for someone who has spent years dedicating their life to someone else as a survival mechanism,Continue reading “Love Yourself Because Someone Has To”

5 Things You Can Do to Help Someone in a Domestic Violence Relationship

I get message after message from family members and friends of people who are experiencing abuse, wondering what they can do for their loved one. (I know men and women experience abuse, and I also believe in choosing a different word than victim to label the person who is experiencing abuse, therefore, for this post,Continue reading “5 Things You Can Do to Help Someone in a Domestic Violence Relationship”

Why not?

People Who Experience Abuse 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime. Women experience more than 4 million physical assaults and rapes because of their partners, and men are victims of nearly 3 million physical assaults. Every year, 1 in 3 women who is a victim of homicide is murdered by herContinue reading “Why not?”

What now?

It’s been seven and a half years. Seven and a half years since I walked into a women’s shelter. Seven and a half years since I began the divorce process. Seven and a half years since my life changed forever and seven and a half years since I last experienced the abuse that once was soContinue reading “What now?”