Do Your Domestic Violence Survival Skills Measure Up?

I sat on the stadium bleachers next to my boyfriend of six months on my birthday in the cool early November afternoon sun.  I had just finished performing the half time show with the color guard and marching band at our college football game. The week prior to my birthday had been amazing, it all startedContinue reading “Do Your Domestic Violence Survival Skills Measure Up?”

So My Dad Helped You?

“Mom, why did you leave my dad, why!” My eight year old demanded of me yet again. It was not uncommon for him to ask me such a question, and I knew whatever I said would go back to his dad. We were driving home from the gym, it was dark and rain sprinkled theContinue reading “So My Dad Helped You?”

Why not?

People Who Experience Abuse 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime. Women experience more than 4 million physical assaults and rapes because of their partners, and men are victims of nearly 3 million physical assaults. Every year, 1 in 3 women who is a victim of homicide is murdered by herContinue reading “Why not?”

What now?

It’s been seven and a half years. Seven and a half years since I walked into a women’s shelter. Seven and a half years since I began the divorce process. Seven and a half years since my life changed forever and seven and a half years since I last experienced the abuse that once was soContinue reading “What now?”

Journal Entry

A few excerpts from the journal I kept while going through my 3 1/2 journey to divorce: Nov 15, 2006 (six weeks before I left him the final time) I’m sitting in the women’s shelter right now. I’m waiting to talk to someone to weigh my options. I think I’ve already mentally divorced my husband.Continue reading “Journal Entry”

Taking Responsibility: Why Being in a Domestic Violent situation was my fault

“Are you sure?” “Of course I’m sure.” “But you’re 20 years old and he’s the only boyfriend you’ve ever had.” “And we’re getting married in a month. Everything will be fine.” Yes I was young and naive, yes I knew nothing about relationships and yes, I was that 20 year old girl, marrying a 24Continue reading “Taking Responsibility: Why Being in a Domestic Violent situation was my fault”

Being Single and Being a Parent

There is one simple fact making single parenting difficult. And that simple fact is, you are single, and you are a parent. Okay this may be obvious, but here’s how it goes: being single So I know there are those few out there who are perfectly happy living a life without a partner, but forContinue reading “Being Single and Being a Parent”

The Shelter

I could feel the soft pull on my nipple and let down as my twelve month old suckled in the early morning hour, the soft yellow of the rising sun. I half dozed as he nuzzled in close, and I was cherishing this sweet bond between mother and son, enjoying the sweet flow of lifeContinue reading “The Shelter”

Twice the Work Part 1

Where have I been? Have I disappeared from the blog world? It feels that way to me. And for good reason. I have found myself working two jobs for the last three months. And despite leaving my house at 5:30 am and getting home between 6:30 and 7:00pm, losing time with my son, missing outContinue reading “Twice the Work Part 1”

You Are Getting Divorced?!?!?!?

Oh my gosh, I can’t believe she is getting a divorce. Ugh. Anybody can be married to anybody else if they just work on it. There has to be more she can do to make her marriage work. I doubt she is doing everything she can possibly do to make it work. I just knowContinue reading “You Are Getting Divorced?!?!?!?”