What Can I Do to Help Her?

“I think my daughter is in a domestic violent relationship. What can I do to help her?” “I’m sorry, but there is nothing you can do until she is ready for the help. Do you know if it’s physical?” “Not that I know of yet. I think it’s just emotional right now. I don’t understandContinue reading “What Can I Do to Help Her?”

Do Your Domestic Violence Survival Skills Measure Up?

I sat on the stadium bleachers next to my boyfriend of six months on my birthday in the cool early November afternoon sun.  I had just finished performing the half time show with the color guard and marching band at our college football game. The week prior to my birthday had been amazing, it all startedContinue reading “Do Your Domestic Violence Survival Skills Measure Up?”

Hashtags to a Better World

I sat in the conference room with my peer managers. We had just finished discussing our workload and plans for the day and started talking about what was going on in our outside lives. This may seem like a waste of time to some, however it’s a great way to cultivate team building and creativity.Continue reading “Hashtags to a Better World”

4 Responses to Fear and How to Overcome Triggers

“I’m not going to smile.” I teased. He just tried even harder. “I like it when you smile.” “Why?” “Cause you’re beautiful when you smile.” It had become a game now and I was choosing to be stubborn and not give in to letting him see me smile. It was not easy. “I’m still prettyContinue reading “4 Responses to Fear and How to Overcome Triggers”

Then and Now, Coming Full Circle

“I could come join you.” I pressed send on the text. “You could stop by here for a bit. We are going till 5.”   came the reply. I had just gotten off work and my boyfriend had been volunteering at the Spirit of Giving event at the local women’s shelter. I started driving toward theContinue reading “Then and Now, Coming Full Circle”

7 Pillars to Healing From Domestic Violence Introduction

I woke up Christmas morning to what was perhaps one of the most horrible days of my life. I could feel the fear coursing through my veins and pumping into my heart, all I wanted was to take my 12 month old back to the shelter where I knew we would be safe. I rolledContinue reading “7 Pillars to Healing From Domestic Violence Introduction”

Why not?

People Who Experience Abuse 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime. Women experience more than 4 million physical assaults and rapes because of their partners, and men are victims of nearly 3 million physical assaults. Every year, 1 in 3 women who is a victim of homicide is murdered by herContinue reading “Why not?”

Journal Entry

A few excerpts from the journal I kept while going through my 3 1/2 journey to divorce: Nov 15, 2006 (six weeks before I left him the final time) I’m sitting in the women’s shelter right now. I’m waiting to talk to someone to weigh my options. I think I’ve already mentally divorced my husband.Continue reading “Journal Entry”

Enough is enough

I have heard many people spout opinions of Janay Rice, wife of Ray Rice, after the video of him hitting her in an elevator surfaced recently. “Why would she stay” “He’s just going to do it again.” Fact is, you don’t know what it’s like. Stop making her decisions for her. Here is what it’sContinue reading “Enough is enough”

Taking Responsibility: Why Being in a Domestic Violent situation was my fault

“Are you sure?” “Of course I’m sure.” “But you’re 20 years old and he’s the only boyfriend you’ve ever had.” “And we’re getting married in a month. Everything will be fine.” Yes I was young and naive, yes I knew nothing about relationships and yes, I was that 20 year old girl, marrying a 24Continue reading “Taking Responsibility: Why Being in a Domestic Violent situation was my fault”