What Can I Do to Help Her?

“I think my daughter is in a domestic violent relationship. What can I do to help her?” “I’m sorry, but there is nothing you can do until she is ready for the help. Do you know if it’s physical?” “Not that I know of yet. I think it’s just emotional right now. I don’t understandContinue reading “What Can I Do to Help Her?”

Do Your Domestic Violence Survival Skills Measure Up?

I sat on the stadium bleachers next to my boyfriend of six months on my birthday in the cool early November afternoon sun.  I had just finished performing the half time show with the color guard and marching band at our college football game. The week prior to my birthday had been amazing, it all startedContinue reading “Do Your Domestic Violence Survival Skills Measure Up?”

Hashtags to a Better World

I sat in the conference room with my peer managers. We had just finished discussing our workload and plans for the day and started talking about what was going on in our outside lives. This may seem like a waste of time to some, however it’s a great way to cultivate team building and creativity.Continue reading “Hashtags to a Better World”

4 Responses to Fear and How to Overcome Triggers

“I’m not going to smile.” I teased. He just tried even harder. “I like it when you smile.” “Why?” “Cause you’re beautiful when you smile.” It had become a game now and I was choosing to be stubborn and not give in to letting him see me smile. It was not easy. “I’m still prettyContinue reading “4 Responses to Fear and How to Overcome Triggers”

Then and Now, Coming Full Circle

“I could come join you.” I pressed send on the text. “You could stop by here for a bit. We are going till 5.”   came the reply. I had just gotten off work and my boyfriend had been volunteering at the Spirit of Giving event at the local women’s shelter. I started driving toward theContinue reading “Then and Now, Coming Full Circle”

Okay, Open Your Eyes

“Should I close my eyes yet?” I asked as I heard him nearing the top of the stairs. He had been downstairs rummaging around in the basement for a few minutes. Excited to give me my Christmas present early. I was a little apprehensive because I hadn’t even bought his Christmas present yet. “Yes close yourContinue reading “Okay, Open Your Eyes”

50 Shades of Domestic Violence

With all the talk about 50 Shades of Grey, the experience I had with domestic abuse, and the fact that I speak out about it, I figure I would speak my peice on the subject. No, I have not read the book (I don’t even have the desire to). Yes I did see the movie (aContinue reading “50 Shades of Domestic Violence”

Can we Remove Abuse from the World?

Abuse is in the media a lot. People who haven’t experienced it question it a lot. I’ve already written about it, and I have more to say. I want to help others understand what abuse is, and what abuse isn’t. Abuse sneaks up on a woman The first date isn’t wrought with emotionally or physicallyContinue reading “Can we Remove Abuse from the World?”

Types of Abuse

Abuse comes in many forms. There are different kinds of abusers who abuse in different ways. Physical Abuse Of course, physical abuse is the most well known and talked about. Abuse generally doesn’t start here though, it builds up in small ways until it escalates to physical. Once it gets to this point, there isContinue reading “Types of Abuse”

Can Abusers Change?

Side Note: there are several “easter egg” links in this blog post with lots of great information, I highly suggest checking them out! I lay on my bed alone as my husband was in the front room watching tv, yet again, I was going to bed without him. My heart yearned to feel loved and cherishedContinue reading “Can Abusers Change?”