Say What You Want to Say

If I were to take my filter off and say what I really wanted to say about Domestic Violence and abuse, it would reach out and touch people I love and care about. It would maybe even come across as harsh and judging and possibly hypocritical, I’m not even perfect, after all I grew upContinue reading “Say What You Want to Say”

So My Dad Helped You?

“Mom, why did you leave my dad, why!” My eight year old demanded of me yet again. It was not uncommon for him to ask me such a question, and I knew whatever I said would go back to his dad. We were driving home from the gym, it was dark and rain sprinkled theContinue reading “So My Dad Helped You?”

Types of Abuse

Abuse comes in many forms. There are different kinds of abusers who abuse in different ways. Physical Abuse Of course, physical abuse is the most well known and talked about. Abuse generally doesn’t start here though, it builds up in small ways until it escalates to physical. Once it gets to this point, there isContinue reading “Types of Abuse”

Love Yourself Because Someone Has To

So you made it. You left. You’ve been through the frightening experience of leaving your abuser and starting your own life. Now what? Here it is, step one to healing from abuse: love yourself. It may sound simple, but for someone who has spent years dedicating their life to someone else as a survival mechanism,Continue reading “Love Yourself Because Someone Has To”

Changing the Language of Domestic Violence and Abuse

Did you know 7% of your message is conveyed through words? That’s a tiny sliver. 38% is through tone and the other 55% is through body language. Since only 7% of your message is conveyed through words, do you think it’s important to be aware of the words you speak? Choosing the right words whenContinue reading “Changing the Language of Domestic Violence and Abuse”

5 Things You Can Do to Help Someone in a Domestic Violence Relationship

I get message after message from family members and friends of people who are experiencing abuse, wondering what they can do for their loved one. (I know men and women experience abuse, and I also believe in choosing a different word than victim to label the person who is experiencing abuse, therefore, for this post,Continue reading “5 Things You Can Do to Help Someone in a Domestic Violence Relationship”

Why not?

People Who Experience Abuse 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime. Women experience more than 4 million physical assaults and rapes because of their partners, and men are victims of nearly 3 million physical assaults. Every year, 1 in 3 women who is a victim of homicide is murdered by herContinue reading “Why not?”

What now?

It’s been seven and a half years. Seven and a half years since I walked into a women’s shelter. Seven and a half years since I began the divorce process. Seven and a half years since my life changed forever and seven and a half years since I┬álast experienced the abuse that once was soContinue reading “What now?”

Journal Entry

A few excerpts from the journal I kept while going through my 3 1/2 journey to divorce: Nov 15, 2006 (six weeks before I left him the final time) I’m sitting in the women’s shelter right now. I’m waiting to talk to someone to weigh my options. I think I’ve already mentally divorced my husband.Continue reading “Journal Entry”