Okay, Open Your Eyes

“Should I close my eyes yet?” I asked as I heard him nearing the top of the stairs. He had been downstairs rummaging around in the basement for a few minutes. Excited to give me my Christmas present early. I was a little apprehensive because I hadn’t even bought his Christmas present yet. “Yes close yourContinue reading “Okay, Open Your Eyes”

10 Life-Changing Books Paving Your Path to Healing From Abuse

I began writing this post months ago and stopped. Probably mostly due to life getting in the way, and other blog posts taking precedence. Last weekend I was blessed to attend a Gala for an amazing organization, WOW Utah, helping women who have overcome domestic violence, substance abuse, polygamy, debilitating illness and simply not having aContinue reading “10 Life-Changing Books Paving Your Path to Healing From Abuse”

7 Pillars to Healing From Domestic Violence Introduction

I woke up Christmas morning to what was perhaps one of the most horrible days of my life. I could feel the fear coursing through my veins and pumping into my heart, all I wanted was to take my 12 month old back to the shelter where I knew we would be safe. I rolledContinue reading “7 Pillars to Healing From Domestic Violence Introduction”

3 Laws (& Assignments) for Successful Dating After Domestic Violence

Law 1: Individuality Let’s face it. After experiencing living in an abusive relationship, you most likely don’t know who you are or what you want. You were probably told many times over the past few years who you are, what you should be and do and what you shouldn’t be and do. I highly recommendContinue reading “3 Laws (& Assignments) for Successful Dating After Domestic Violence”

3 Simple Tips For Loving Your New Normal Now

Were you like me? Did you daydream about how your life would turn out? Would you marry your prince charming and raise beautiful children together? Be present for your children as they progress though all the stages of life? Be a stay at home mom? Be totally spontaneous and decide last minute to go onContinue reading “3 Simple Tips For Loving Your New Normal Now”

Changing Your Clothes Will Change Your Life

One of the most important things women who have experienced domestic violence can do is to build up their own self-esteem and start loving themselves. In my very first guest blog post, Kami Woodward, Wardrobe Mentor (kamiwoodward.com) explains how to give yourself permission to be you and love yourself! They were the perfect pink high heels.Continue reading “Changing Your Clothes Will Change Your Life”

Re-wiring the Brain for Healing after Experiencing Domestic Violence

My heart was pumping and my mind was whirring even though my body was still. I was lying on the floor looking up into his eyes, he was straddling my waist and holding my wrists above my head, pinned to the floor. I was helpless. I couldn’t move, couldn’t escape. I had already learned from previousContinue reading “Re-wiring the Brain for Healing after Experiencing Domestic Violence”

5 Reasons Why Marriage is Improving

Recently an article was posted listing 5 reasons why marriage doesn’t work any more. The truth is divorce rates are lowering and we as a society have been learning (and doing) what it takes to make marriage work. Here are my 5 reasons marriage still does work. First, take a glance at the article toContinue reading “5 Reasons Why Marriage is Improving”

50 Shades of Domestic Violence

With all the talk about 50 Shades of Grey, the experience I had with domestic abuse, and the fact that I speak out about it, I figure I would speak my peice on the subject. No, I have not read the book (I don’t even have the desire to). Yes I did see the movie (aContinue reading “50 Shades of Domestic Violence”

Can we Remove Abuse from the World?

Abuse is in the media a lot. People who haven’t experienced it question it a lot. I’ve already written about it, and I have more to say. I want to help others understand what abuse is, and what abuse isn’t. Abuse sneaks up on a woman The first date isn’t wrought with emotionally or physicallyContinue reading “Can we Remove Abuse from the World?”